By Jeff Klick

I never knew I had a temper until we had children! I was always so easy going and even tempered. Children can bring out the flesh quicker than almost anything else. Proverbs 14:29 - "A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly."29:11 - "A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control."James 1:20 - "The anger of man does not bring about the righteous life that God requires."These verses (and many more!) are very clear about anger. Anger and child training often go together but that does not make it fight! All of us want to be patient and to bring about God's will in the lives of our children. And I'm sure none of us want to be a fool.... So anger must be dealt with. We must learn to control our temper, words, and expressions when dealing with our children (and spouses!) Most anger situations could be avoided if we were more diligent to begin with. It is not our child's fault that they are not obedient, it is ours. If our child does not listen until the fourth time we tell them to do something, it is not their fault, we have trained them to do this. Taking out our frustrations on our children can have very damaging, long term effects on them. Parents must learn to say "I'm sorry, I was wrong." Five words that can heal a home or marriage! When a situation presents itself to you for your action, i.e.. spanking, correction etc. stop and take a breath, pray for wisdom, and avoid anger. Never spank your child out of anger. Spankings should be a controlled event with the desired end in mind (no pun intended!) It would be much better to leave the room and count to 10 or 100 until your blood pressure settles down, than to try to train your child in anger. Ask God for wisdom and peace as you continue on this wonderful adventure called child training!